Conflicts between couples fail to be normal in a relationship when communication begins to fail. It is important to understand the expectations of the other person before reaching the marriage and take into account the things that our husband or wife need to be happy, putting yourself in the other person place helps to get a better perspective of the problem and be more fair taking a decision. In my opinion Michael forgot this by describing his wife as an unrealistic person.
Michael and Jane were married after completing college, three years after them twin daughters were born. Now Jane wants to work as she did before giving birth, and she has searched for day care for her children which she thinks is perfect, but her husband is opposed because he thinks that his daughters are too young to be all day at day care. Jane knows that the more time passes without working more difficult will return to the job market, and she feels she needs to share with other adults because now easily lose patience with her daughters. Jane knows that extra money would be helpful but her Michael believes it is not necessary. He does not understand why Jane does not just have a happy life with her family.
I think it is very important to take care of our children, but equally important is concern for the happiness of our spouse, it is obvious that Michael and Jane have different definitions of a happy life, for him is enough to share with his family for her happiness includes professional accomplishment. I feel that her arguments are stronger and defined,she knows the emotional stability of each of the partners is important for the welfare of the whole family.
My recommendation for solution this problem is the dialogue thinking each in the other and knowing that not only got married to be happy but also to make the other person happy too.
I do not understand how Michael says "Jane never talk about wanting a career."
I think he should imagine that if she went to college was because she wanted a career.
No comments:
Post a Comment